Go Deeper by Carey Casey

Carey Casey writes our regular "Dad’s Life" column in ParentLife. Today, he’s sharing a little extra about building a strong foundation in your home and your faith.


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Have you ever seen a skyscraper go up? It’s amazing to watch it reaching for the clouds, but I’m talking about what’s going on below ground — the foundation.

I happened to be at a building site when a skyscraper was just getting started. And I heard that you can tell how high the building is going to be by how deep they lay the foundation.

I believe that’s a useful illustration for fathers, because you have to go deep with your child. You are part of your child’s foundation. How high he goes in life depends partly on the stability and support that you provide, and it has to go deep.

That means your commitment to be a good father runs deep in your life, and it means you are willing to address tough issues with your child. You are not just sitting on the sidelines and letting Mom handle difficult situations by herself. And you aren’t assuming your child will get information he needs on his own, or that you always can trust him to stay out of trouble.

No, going deeper means having involved discussions about issues of faith or sex or drugs. It means staying aware of what they’re into and talking to your child about any danger signs you see. It means taking a stand and sometimes laying down consequences.

This also applies to fathers personally. If you want to go high in your achievements, making a difference for God’s Kingdom, then you have to lay a solid foundation. The old hymn says the church’s one foundation is Jesus Christ our Lord, and that’s also true for fathers.

You have to go deep with Christ; He has to be the cornerstone for everything you do. You can’t let your toys, gadgets, egos, or other worldly distractions overshadow or extinguish that spark that God has given you as a father.

If you go deep with Him and that foundation is in place, then you will have the discernment, patience, and poise necessary to love, coach, and model for your child. Going deep allows you to reach new heights as a championship father.


Dad’s Life Columnist Carey Casey is Chief Executive Officer of the Kansas City-based National Center for Fathering and author of the book Championship Fathering: How to Win at Being a Dad (2009). 

Through his work across the country, Casey has earned a reputation as a dynamic communicator, especially on the topic of men being good fathers. He’s known as a compassionate ambassador, particularly within the American sports community.


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  1. It is such a blessing when a Father leads His family with a solid foundation! Thanks for sharing your heart.

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