New Moms Need Mentors! by Jessie Weaver

A little over 22 months ago, I birthed my first child into the world.

She took her sweet old time as my husband and mother waited and the dog watched me, confused, while I didn’t sleep for two nights straight.

Her little life has changed me just as much and more than I expected. My greatest panic as we came home from the hospital in October 2008 was that I had no family in Nashville, where we lived. No one to call for help. I begged my mom to stay forever, to move to Nashville without my dad, anything to save me from having to raise a baby without her guidance. Wisely, she declined.


Just a few days into Libbie’s tiny life, the preschool minister from our church came to visit. She brought three things: the rose that had symbolized Libbie’s birth on the church altar; a Christian parenting book; and a copy of BabyLife.

I will confess to barely touching the book; life was too overwhelming already with a newborn wreaking havoc in our house. But I read BabyLife from cover to cover, multiple times. And discovered its bearer, our dear preschool director, lived very close to our house and would fill in as “Mom” when needed. Her guidance and friendship saved me several times.

Titus 2:3-5 encourages older women to mentor younger women “to be sensible.” I can think of many times when I needed some sense stuffed into my head. I am forever grateful to the women in my life — older, not too much older, even younger — who have taken the time to talk me down from a cliff. Every new mom needs guidance at one time or another, whether she wants to admit it or not!

Now, as baby #2 is gestating and December seems to be getting closer and closer, I hope to find another wonderful mentor in our new city. Because life with two seems pretty scary to me, but I know a lot of women have been there.

The ParentLife staff is starting work on the newest edition of
BabyLife , which will be released in June 2011. The magazine is full of advice for parenting children during their first two years of life. What would you like to see featured in the magazine? What articles would catch your attention?

Jessie, the new “ParentLife Blog Guru,” is a stay-at-home mom and freelance writer and editor in Chattanooga, Tennessee. She has blogged for over four years at Vanderbilt Wife.


  1. Jessie,
    This is so great! Good for you. Even older mothers need mentoring from veterans, especially through the teenage years of their children. Now as my baby is getting married, I wonder if I’m ready for this new stage of our relationship where my daughter is looking to me, not always as a mother, but a mentor.
    Praying that a “mom” shows up soon to stand by your stand in this new city.

  2. I wish someone had told me that it is normal for your hair to fall out after pregnancy (as well as other surprising side-effects) and the tricks to quieting a fussy baby. Those are two things I had to learn on my own.

  3. This sounds really odd but works like a gem. When a babies are very fussy and options are limited, like in the car, they often find a buzzing sound comforting or at least distracting. With three boys, I have buzzed like a bee for hours. Of course, my boys were also soothed by singing and it’s not because I have talent, believe me. So sing and buzz your heart out. Your baby will love it!

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