Is your preteen tired of school? Is she feeling the pressure of completing school work, earning good grades, and fitting in with her peers? Help her take the stress out of school.
- Encourage excellence but emphasize to your preteen that she does not base her self-worth on grades. There is a balance here. Push her to do her best but assure that her value is grounded in being a child of God.
- Ensure that your preteen has enough time to study and complete homework. Procrastinating or rushing through assignments will catch up to your
preteen sooner or later. Be proactive in this area. Know what
assignments are coming up and help your preteen set aside enough time
to get all of them done.
- Celebrate your preteen’s success. Be eager and quick to point out when your preteen does well. When she earns a good grade, praise her! When she writes a paper, ask to read it and give her positive feedback. If the only time you talk about school is when you are critical, your preteen most likely will worry more.
For more help on teaching your preteen to see herself through God’s eyes, be sure to check out ParentLife’s 9 to 12 Years Growth Spurt article “Self-Identity” in the March 2009 issue.
What school struggles is your preteen facing? Do you have
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