I like to consider myself to be a laidback person, but those closest to me know I’m not. However, I’ve shocked myself (and many of those around me) by being a more relaxed mom than I thought I could ever be. I’d say my parenting style is fairly relaxed … except when it comes to one topic in particular — schedules.
A few months into Jack’s life, I become obsessed with his daily schedule. I wanted everything to be exactly the same every single day. I felt he should eat and sleep at the same times every day. It’s not that I wanted to set the schedule and control every minute of his life. I was fine with letting him set the schedule. But I couldn’t understand it when he didn’t fall into a recognizable pattern every day. I just assumed that I must be doing something wrong.
I’ve read it a million times, but for some reason, it did not sink in — Every baby is different. Some babies just don’t fall into a perfect pattern like others.
After a couple of exhausting months of worrying, I finally gave up. I decided to completely follow Jack’s lead on a day-by-day basis. I can’t tell you what a difference it made in both Jack and me! After letting go, I felt as if a burden had been lifted off my shoulders. I was able to spend less time worrying and more time enjoying every moment with Jack.
And would you believe, not long after I quit obsessing, Jack fell into a basic pattern. It’s not exactly the same every day, but it’s close. It would seem that my unnecessary anxiety was affecting his behavior.
What about you? Does your young child follow a schedule every day or is every day different? Are there things you find yourself worrying about unnecessarily?