by Randy X. Ferreira
There are well over 100 scriptures on Loving our wives in the Bible. One of the main scriptures often quoted in connection to loving one’s wife is Ephesians 5:25.
Husbands Love your wives, as Christ Loved the church and gave himself up for her.
Loving our wives as Christ has loved us should always be our primary motivation and model. Let’s think through the application of the truth found in this verse.
First, in seeking to love our wives in this way, it is helpful to ask, “How did Jesus Love the church?”
The church is defined not by bricks and mortar but by people. This verse refers to the way that Jesus loved His people. Christ showed love towards the church (people) in many ways, here are just a few.
- Jesus provided for physical needs – Jesus loved people by providing physical nourishment through food on many occasions.
Matthew 14:13-21 is just one example of Jesus providing in this way. Likewise, one way we can practically love our wives well is by being a good provider. This involves working hard at our jobs, being good fathers, and helpful attentive husbands.
- Jesus was Encouraging & Uplifting – Jesus loved people by encouraging them. One of the ways Paul modeled the love of Jesus was by encouraging those in his care (1 Thessalonians 4:18; Romans 15:5.).
Men, we can show great love towards our wives by making a deliberate effort to be a continual source of encouragement throughout the day.
- Jesus was inspiring – Jesus loved the church (his people) by inspiring them. Christ inspired the church with hope and love and grace. (Philippians 4:7) (Mark 10:27) (Psalms 37: 23-24)
Inspiring our wives in their work, their faith, their friendships, their interest, hobbies, parenting etc. are all ways we can love our wives through inspirational means.
- Jesus Demonstrated Spiritual Leadership – Jesus loves His people by guiding them spiritually (John 10:27). Paul modeled this same love by being patient and tenderly leading people (Ephesians 4:15-16).
We love our wives well by being good spiritual leaders (Ephesians 5:21-23). One of the ways we do this is by showing patience and grace each day.
These are only a few examples of the ways Christ loved the church and that we can also love our wives.
It is important to remember that even if our wives choose not to love us in the same ways, we are called by God to rise above our feelings and continue to love our Wives. Even if we feel neglected by our wives, we should seek to remember the way in which Christ has loved us. Romans 5:8 reminds us that “while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”
God has called us to love our wives not primarily in response to the way they love us, but in the way that He has loved us.
The more we dive deeper into Scripture the more we learn how to love our wives as Christ has loved the church. Take the dive today!