This is part 2 of a 2 part series. You see part one here.
Mistake #6: Failing to Address The “Terrible Too’s”
Not the “Terrible Two’s,” but the “Terrible Too’s.” There are three of them:
1. Giving them Too Much
Jesus taught us to give our children what is best for them, not what they always want (Matthew 7:9-11)
2. Being Too Strict or Overprotective
Seek to balance responsibility and freedom. Your job is to prepare your child for life’s difficult realities.
3. Too Busy, Not enough Time
Your child needs your time and lots of it. You make time for the things that are important to you.
Mistake #7: Not Teaching About God’s Way with Money
Dad, your child needs to know that all your money, and theirs, belongs to God and the way they acknowledge that is through tithing, giving at least 10% of what they make back to God. Show them what the Bible says about money. A great place to begin is in I Timothy 6:6-10. Your child needs to be taught how to give generously to the Lord and His work; save money; be wise and generous in helping those in need, to pray about what they buy, to wait upon the Lord for His timing in purchasing something and avoiding get-rich-quick ideas.
Mistake #8: Avoiding the “Sex Talk”
Your child needs to get his or her sex education from you and your wife. Many young men are looking to Internet pornography to get their sex education and many young women are looking to pornography in an attempt to discover what they can do to please their boyfriends, finances, or future husbands. I read this quote on crosswalk.com concerning parenting: “Your child’s safety is more important than their privacy. As a parent, you aren’t being nosy by checking their cell phone on a regular basis; you are being responsible” (www.crosswalk.com/family).
Here are some specific Scriptures you can use to help educate your son and daughter, concerning God’s plan for sex: I Corinthians 7:2; Acts 15:20; I Corinthians 5:1; 6:13, `18; 10:8; II Corinthians 12:21; Galatians 5:19; Ephesians 5:3; Colossians 3:5; I Thessalonians 4:3-4; Jude 7; Hebrews 13:4; and I Corinthians 6:18-20.
In addition to giving your child a biblical basis for sex; you must absolutely install Internet filtering and accountability software on every digital device. I believe Covenant Eyes is the best on the market.
Mistake #9: Failing to Help Your Child Choose Friends
One of the most important things a dad can do for his son or daughter is to help them choose their friends wisely, knowing friends will influence them like nothing else. “Do not be deceived; Bad company corrupts good morals” (I Corinthians 15:33). Help your child choose friends who share their biblical worldview, who were raised by godly parents.
Mistake #10: Not Praying For Four Areas of Your Child’s Life
Dads make a great mistake when they are not daily praying for four things in the life of their sons and daughters:
Pray for your child’s salvation daily. Once they are saved, pray for his or her walk with God.
Dads pray daily for your son’s wife or daughter’s husband. When they are married, pray daily for their marriage
Pray for your child’s future job, profession or vocation. Pray that whatever they choose becomes a platform to demonstrate the Christian faith.
Pray daily for a hedge of protection around your child (Job 1:10).
As dads we all make mistakes. Let these 10 common mistakes not be true of you. You can start addressing these today. Live your faith out-loud with your child. You can only pass down to him or her that which you have and are experiencing. When you meet God’s conditions to “train up a child in the way he should go,” you can be certain that training is never in vain.