by Brandon Hiltibidal
There are always struggles at home.
There are tears at the dinner table because of a “C” on a spelling test.
The handlebars came off the bicycle (again).
A friend of your wife said something in anger and those words are lingering like a cloud in your house.
Why won’t this toilet flush?
Daughter A pushed daughter B into the wall for a shot at the first donut.
We’re out of paper towels and how can we go on?
Your wife’s mom has cancer and no one knows what will happen next.
And none of this is your fault.
You didn’t engineer the bike.
You didn’t say the hurtful words.
You can definitely ace a spelling test.
You definitely can’t cure cancer.
You use fewer paper towels than anyone.
It’s not your fault.
It’s not your fault, but you are the father. You are the husband. You are the leader God has chosen. You are the man God has designed for the family He’s made. So, it’s not your fault, but it is your responsibility.
Men, God has placed you as your home’s head to stand against the struggles. He’s asked you to fight battles for your family and to finish things you didn’t start. It is your responsibility. But before you freak out and sprint for the paper towels, remember that you don’t lead alone.
1 Corinthians 11:3 says, “I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.”
The struggles are yours and you must lead, but they are also God’s as He is leading you. Dr. Tony Evans, in his Bible study No More Excuses, tells us “This verse describes a chain of command. It reveals a hierarchy that, when followed, ushers in authority, peace, and spiritual power.”
He goes on to say, “God created men to serve as the foundation of their homes, churches, and communities. Strong leadership by men provides stability for the people underneath them. Weak, fractured leadership leads to broken lives all around them. Strong leaders model the leadership of Christ, who laid down His life to serve the church (see Mark 10:45; Eph. 5:25). Strong leaders seek the benefit of all under their care.”
Your family is your responsibility. You must lead. But you are God’s responsibility, so you can lead in hope. Your struggles are God’s struggles. Your strength is God’s strength. Your kids are His kids. Your cancer, His cancer.
Your leadership is His grave-defying power in you.
There are always struggles at home, but there is also a God who is able. You have a Leader who saw this broken world and our broken lives and said, “That’s not my fault, but it’s my responsibility.” And to the cross He went.
So comfort your wife, care for your kids, unclog the toilet, and rest in the One who gives the power you need for the struggles you face. And good luck with Daughter A; she sounds like a handful.
For more on this topic, check out No More Excuses, by Dr. Tony Evans the most recent release from LifeWay Men. For information on the complete No More Excuses experience visit lifeway.com/nomoreexcuses.