By: Dhati Lewis– For better or worse, the childhood relationships we form in our nuclear families affect us for years to come. Our understanding of siblings and parents is shaped by our experiences with sisters, brothers, fathers, and mothers. Because all people are broken on some level, each of us has family wounds.
The absence of a father is hard to overcome. The wounds of a sister can fester for years. And although we don’t have to be dominated by our past, thechallenge is to discover how God intends to redeem and restore us. Praise be to God, Jesus has overcome the ills of this world! He provided the means to meet the greatest needs in ourselves, our homes, and our cities—a need for security, a need for significance, and a need for hope. The means of this provision is the church, God’s family.
If you have deep wounds from your earthly father, through Jesus you’re now adopted into a family in which God is your perfect Father. In the same way an orphan child is shown the love of Christ when adopted into a family, the church is the family of God that welcomes all who come. If you have deep wounds from your siblings, you’re now welcomed into a family with a perfect Older Brother, Jesus, and a multitude of siblings who reflect His nature and love. Mother relationships can be restored in the church as older women care for the younger. Brother wounds can be restored as men in the church display what it means to honor and protect others with gentle love. Any family brokenness you experienced in the past can now be redeemed and restored through the church.
To see healing in our lives, homes, and cities, we must truly see God as our Father and know that we have access to Him through His Son, Jesus, our Brother. Only when we fully live from our identity as children of the Most High can we embrace His calling for our lives. Once we know we have a Father who deeply loves us and passionately pursues us, we can begin the process of embracing our high calling to make disciples.
Dhati Lewis is the Lead Pastor at Blueprint Church in Atlanta, Georgia. He is most passionate about church-planting and making disciples and is passionate about living out biblical truths in every aspect of life. He is currently working toward a D.Min from SEBTS in Great Commission Mobilization with a focus on planting multi-ethnic churches in the urban context. He is author of Among Wolves: Disciple Making in the City
This article is an excerpt from Among Wolves Bible Study: Disciple Making in the City. © 2017 LifeWay Press. Used by permission.