View From The Pew: Mentoring Women Made Easy

Why is it our churches still struggle with how to get women to mentor other women? Seems a topic at each leadership training we host!  But read how Lorie Looney Keene is being mentored in the daily-ness of life. This makes it so doable! Encourage your women to watch for these daily opportunities to make a difference in the life of a woman.


As a seminary student and later as a seminary employee,  I often heard women express a desire to be mentored by other women.  Typically, they would say something like, “I wish an older lady would pour into my life.”  When asked, however, if they were currently seeking to build natural relationships with women in their local church body, they would usually say no.

It seems to me that somewhere in the mist of conferences, classes and books being written and taught on the issue of mentorship, we may have inadvertently made something that is natural become to synthetic and difficult to obtain.

I admit, I do not currently have any women in my life who I can say is ‘officially’ mentoring me. I do not meet weekly with someone for coffee and Scripture. I do not have a monthly prayer partner. And, I do not have someone who devotes her time to helping me grow spiritually. I, like many of you, am currently living under the time constraints of being at home and raising children. This squeezes out time for an ‘organized or scheduled’ mentoring relationship.

However, in the midst of all this, I can honestly say that I am gleaning mentoring moments from several women in my church.  From my seat in the pew I weekly see a lady who raised three children all on her own. She is a faithful attender and amazing servant to our church body.  Behind me is an elderly couple who even in their latter years are obviously in love and devoted to one another in such a way that I am weekly encouraged by how they show affection.  Other pews hold mothers of older children, who despite the fact that their children are out of the nursery/toddler years, they still pour into the lives of preschoolers.  There is a single woman who monthly babysits my children out of the goodness of her heart because she said she wanted to give my husband and I some time alone together.

 My list could go on and on. God has planted amazing women in my church body in various stages of life who weekly encourage, edify and convict me. We do not have to meet over tea; simple observance is mentorship as well.

What does the view from your pew look like? Who are the women God has placed in your church body? And how can you be ‘unofficially’ mentored by them?

Lorie Keene Lorie Looney Keene earned both a Masters of Divinity in Christian Education and a Masters of Theology (Th.M) from Southern Seminary, where she worked for three years as The Assistant Director of Women’s Programs.  Prior to working at Southern Seminary, Lorie served in Poland with the International Mission Board and has over seven years experience as an ER nurse.  She is the author of Pull Up A Chair: You, Me and the Gospel of John  by New Hope Publishing, as well as a contributing author to Journey Magazine. Lorie lives in Tullahoma, TN where her husband, Stephen is the Youth/Education Minister at Highland Baptist Church. She is a Sunday School teacher to High School girls, leads a weekly women’s Bible study and teaches Biology at her church’s homeschool co-op.  Currently, Lorie is enjoying the role of stay at home mom to her son Elijah and daughter Emma.


  1. Sheila Lister says

    I recently learned that Lorie is married to a distant cousin of mine and I have been blessed by her posts on Facebook. I agree that her observance is positive. I am a widow and 63 years old and hope that I have helped younger women at one time or another. While I agree with what Lorie is saying, I still believe there should be and could be more. When I was young, my mother took me to “Missionary Meetings” and to call on elderly women who were “shut ins”, we walked because Mother did not drive. When my brother came along, this practice continued. Later, when I was older and we moved, Mother and her sister who drove called on those who were ill and elderly. In the old days, women found the time to quilt together and to call with a basket of food when a”sister” had a baby or was ill. I believe we can find at least a little time to spend with those who are lonely and need just a little time and a hug. Doing a Bible study via email and meeting just once a month should be possible. I have also prayed with folks over the phone. Not all women are married with children. And your life can change with one phone call, I know. I lost my husband in an automobile accident. Of every place I can think of, church is the place where we should be able to find folks who have a little time for us.

  2. says

    Thank you for your comment. I completely agree with you that it is essential for women to encourage one another in the church. It was not my intention in anywhere to imply otherwise in the article. I simply wanted to encourage women who may also be in a season of motherhood or other ‘busy time’ and who can not be involved in many structured activities to open their eyes to the ways in which the Lord can naturally be using women to mentor them in a natural and relaxed manner. Again, thank you for taking the time to read the article. Blessings to you.

    • Sheila Lister says

      I know hon. I have been in that season. I loved what you had to say. I just wanted to encourage your readers not to forget the widows in your midst. I have found that church is one of the loneliest places for widows, especially young ones.

      I blessed to know you are part of my family and I am praying for God to bless your work.

  3. Ann Rice says

    Lorie: Thanks for this ! Such encouragement to those in “your” season of life, and “any season” !! I can recall instances when older women “mentored” me without knowing it just by doing and being the things you mentioned in your article. ! Blessings to you and all family and your ministry there..

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