4th (4, Count em 4) Annual Single Gal Valentines Day post!

Last year for my 3rd annual Gal-entines/SinGAL Valentines Day Post, I started out by saying…”May there not be a 4th…well, here I am, another year later and there is a 4th. Sigh. But I’m good. Cue the ‘ All Single Ladies’ song.
Hopefully for some of you who read this last year, there is a date planned tonight. Go gal!! We single gals bless you!
But for the rest of us, still in singleness with no one to buy a card for or sit across a candle lit table with, you can call this good news or call this hard news (or both)…but this is the theme of this year’s post…wait for it…


He was right when he said in 1 Corinthians 7: 34-35 (HCSB):
An unmarried woman or a virgin is concerned about the things of the Lord, so that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the things of the world–how she may please her husband. 35 Now I am saying this for your own benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but because of what is proper and so that you may be devoted to the Lord without distraction. ”
I have been on my own with the Lord as my companion and provider for a long time now and the longer I am single, the more I have found this advice from the Apostle Paul to be true.
I have also gone a while without ‘stewing’ over some guy I had set my sights set on. I have had no one to truly ‘ping’ my radar on for years. So my emotions are so much more open to Jesus Himself. And the peace and calm in my heart are so much fuller and I’m freer to have ‘undistracted devotion to the Lord. Plain and simple. Believe me, I have done my share of emotional stewing, constant analysis, and vain imaginings over men so I know what I am talking about. And looking back, it was such a waste of emotions and misplaced hope. My old journals are filled with it.
And yes, I still want to be married, and yes, I still believe God will do that for me but GIRLS! HEAR THIS…ENJOY HIM while it’s just you and HIM! I’m not there all the time but sometimes I say to Him…”Lord, please delay bringing a man to me so I have more time just with you…but still bring him. ;0)”
If I had known when I was younger how long this season of singleness would have stretched I might have despaired. But the beauty of God not revealing my future to me is that I didn’t know so I continued to look to Him when I would get beyond my stewing and self-pity.
I’m not bashing relationships, I’m just looking at the very bright side of singleness for those of us whose PRIMARY relationship is the God of the UNIVERSE, the maker of hearts.
The older I get, the more I am just astounded at the tenderness and kindness of God’s heart towards me who deserves it not…okay, I could go on and on but that was my point back there somewhere about undistracted devotion.
Jesus is more, has more, loves more. Paul was right and I’m very good with that. Sigh.
Ever your Gal-entine,


  1. says

    Paige, you rock! haha
    As much as I drag my feet to admit it, I agree with you. I have been single longer than than the 7-8 years I’ve known God. We have been through a LOT in that time, and if I had had a husband, boyfriend, date, or even best friend in that time, I would never gone has deep with Jesus.
    Isaiah 6 has been a principal verse for me, and just last year, I realized that I never really caught the second half of it. In the year King Uzziah died… for me it was in the year I lost my job, in the year my Cindy died, … etc.
    I had that part down. In this season of grief and loss, I saw the Lord. But I stopped there, focusing on my losses and what I didn’t have.
    But the second part is critical:
    I saw the Lord, seated on His throne, high and exalted, and the hem of his robe filled the temple. What happened when the bleeding woman touched the hem of his robe? She was healed. Filled the temple? – No room for anyone else. God is completely sufficient to meet all our needs.
    God has promised to meet ALL our needs. And if he uses other people to that end, fantastic. And if he has someone like Jim Caviezel for me, that would be great. 😉 But it is only when the other things are stripped away that we can truly experience the greatest depths of intimacy with our Creator.
    Happy Gal-entines day, Gal!

  2. Susie Wilson says

    I love this – thank you so much! I have been single now for almost 6 years and the longer I’m single the more I find it to be a true blessing to be able to spend my time getting the one who created me – and the one who loves me more than any earthly man could! I know someday(maybe) if it be HIS will, I will be married again – but if it is not HIS will, I know I will be OK. I love my ALONE time with the Lord – for HE walks with me and talks with me and tells me I am HIS very own and for that- I am blessed!

  3. KESHA M. ROYSTER says

    Paigey Pooh, my friend!!!
    I was so hoping you wouldn’t be writing this years Galentines post but as I said last year I hope it’s “our” last!!!
    I’d have to say, if it wasn’t for this post that I stumbled upon 2years ago, you and I may have never connected. So,for that reason I’m totally grateful for my singleness in that regard.; )
    You are a joy and I thank God for you!!! See you in May? at the GB Orlando!!!

  4. Lyndsey says

    Thank you for this encouraging word today, I’m almost 29 and have yet to spend one single V-day with a significant other…. each year I would despair so over being single.. and as I got older it would turn into bitterness at times, or feigned indifference… only in the last couple years have I truly found a semblance of contentment in my single life. I too have found blessings in this time of “undistracted devotion”. Its always nice to hear others stories and know we’re not all going at it alone! Praying many blessings over all the single gals this year!

  5. Kim says

    Thank you for the encouraging words! I am 41 and never been married. It’s taken the last several years to truly be content and know that the Lord is sovereign!

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