Last year for my 3rd annual Gal-entines/SinGAL Valentines Day Post, I started out by saying…”May there not be a 4th…well, here I am, another year later and there is a 4th. Sigh. But I’m good. Cue the ‘ All Single Ladies’ song.
Hopefully for some of you who read this last year, there is a date planned tonight. Go gal!! We single gals bless you!
But for the rest of us, still in singleness with no one to buy a card for or sit across a candle lit table with, you can call this good news or call this hard news (or both)…but this is the theme of this year’s post…wait for it…
He was right when he said in 1 Corinthians 7: 34-35 (HCSB):
“An unmarried woman or a virgin is concerned about the things of the Lord, so that she may be holy both in body and in spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the things of the world–how she may please her husband. 35 Now I am saying this for your own benefit, not to put a restraint on you, but because of what is proper and so that you may be devoted to the Lord without distraction. ”
I have been on my own with the Lord as my companion and provider for a long time now and the longer I am single, the more I have found this advice from the Apostle Paul to be true.
I have also gone a while without ‘stewing’ over some guy I had set my sights set on. I have had no one to truly ‘ping’ my radar on for years. So my emotions are so much more open to Jesus Himself. And the peace and calm in my heart are so much fuller and I’m freer to have ‘undistracted devotion to the Lord. Plain and simple. Believe me, I have done my share of emotional stewing, constant analysis, and vain imaginings over men so I know what I am talking about. And looking back, it was such a waste of emotions and misplaced hope. My old journals are filled with it.
And yes, I still want to be married, and yes, I still believe God will do that for me but GIRLS! HEAR THIS…ENJOY HIM while it’s just you and HIM! I’m not there all the time but sometimes I say to Him…”Lord, please delay bringing a man to me so I have more time just with you…but still bring him. ;0)”
If I had known when I was younger how long this season of singleness would have stretched I might have despaired. But the beauty of God not revealing my future to me is that I didn’t know so I continued to look to Him when I would get beyond my stewing and self-pity.
I’m not bashing relationships, I’m just looking at the very bright side of singleness for those of us whose PRIMARY relationship is the God of the UNIVERSE, the maker of hearts.
The older I get, the more I am just astounded at the tenderness and kindness of God’s heart towards me who deserves it not…okay, I could go on and on but that was my point back there somewhere about undistracted devotion.
Jesus is more, has more, loves more. Paul was right and I’m very good with that. Sigh.
Ever your Gal-entine,