This blog post by Karen Alexander-Doyel is a great reminder and encouragement for ministers’ wives. As you read it, pray about what God would have you do to be Aaron to your husband.
What is it that you wish you could do differently? Have you asked God to allow you to start fresh recently?
I have been thinking about the many resolutions, fresh starts and even do over’s I have experienced through the years.
As a minister’s wife you have many things to consider as you serve alongside your husband. There are things you can do to bring joy and delight into your home and ministry. There are also things that we all do that make it more difficult than it needs to be for ourselves and our family.
I would like to challenge you to set a goal of Godly support for your husband. In Exodus 17:12 we see Moses needing the support of Aaron and Hur. In fact, without their support the entire nation would be defeated.
“When Moses’ hands grew tired, they took a stone and put it under him and he sat on it. Aaron and Hur held his hands up-one on one side, one on the other-so that his hands remained steady till sunset.”
I do not have to tell you that along with the rewards of ministry there are also many difficulties. Sometimes these struggles just wear us out! Our husbands are no exceptions and in fact, they often hear more criticisms than encouraging words.
I want to challenge you to “hold up their arms”. Let them know that you are there for them. Let me give you a couple Aaron suggestions.
1. Pray for him. Be his intercessor.
2. Encourage him. Be his cheerleader.
3. Listen to him. Let him express himself without interruption.
4. Compliment him. Tell him what you love about him. Point out strengths.
5. Respect him. This is your husband’s #1 need!
6. Meet his physical needs. Good meals, exercise with him and love him up.
7. Give him some alone time. Allow him to relax at home.
8. Again … PRAY! PRAY! PRAY!
These are just a few. Ask God to show you what your husband needs in order to further God’s kingdom’s work and then jump in and join him.
Karen is a writer for the Tennessee Baptist Convention Ministers’ Wives blog .She is a speaker and conference leader, former pastor’s wife, and LifeWay Ministry Multiplier from Lenoir City, TN. Karen was married to Dr. Douglas R. Alexander, former pastor of First Baptist Church, Lenoir City, Tennessee until his untimely death a few years ago. They served in ministry in Texas, New Mexico, Arkansas, Ohio and Tennessee. Karen established and led women’s ministries in each church she attended and is a conference leader and writes and teaches Bible studies. She especially has a heart for ministers’ wives and wants to help them love their special calling in ministry. Karen is married to Jim Doyel and is the mother of three grown sons.
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