Hope for weary parents
There are books published each year that quietly minister to people who are dealing with some of life’s hardest issues. You Are Not Alone by Dena Yohe is a new book that is sure to become an evergreen, go-to resource for parents, ministers, and counselors. Rarely does a person feel more helpless and desperate than when your children are struggling. Dena has been there and willingly offers hope to those who are walking that bumpy road today.
You would go to the ends of the earth for your child. So, if your teenager or young adult is in the midst of crisis due to self-injury, mental illness, depression, bullying, or destructive choices, you probably feel broken, powerless, and isolated.
Dena Yohe wants you to know you are not alone. You are not a bad parent. And you are going to be okay.
Dena has been where you are. In You Are Not Alone, she speaks from experience as she offers healthy ways to maintain your other relationships, suggestions for responding to friends who don’t understand, and ideas for keeping up your emotional and spiritual well-being when your world feels as if it’s crashing down.
It is possible to find purpose in your pain, joy beyond your fear, and hope for every tomorrow.
Includes prayers, exercises, websites, and other helpful resources.
I’m happy to welcome Dena today to share some quick nuggets for anyone who might be worried sick over their children. Do you know a friend who could use these encouraging words? Be sure to share this post with them.
I’m the mom of a daughter who’s struggled for over ten years with addictions, self-injury and mental health issues. There are three things I wish I had learned sooner in my parenting marathon. They were like medicine for my sickened heart. If you’re the parent of a troubled son or daughter you need to hear them sooner rather than later.
- You are not alone. We need to repeat these words to ourselves until we believe them. This desperate situation isn’t happening just to you and your family. You’re in good company. There are thousands of parents all over the world who suffer with children in turmoil.
- You are not a bad parent. Although you weren’t perfect, no one is—and that’s not your fault. Children have free will to make their own choices. Some of their troubles are genetic, such as mental illness or the propensity for alcoholism.
- You are going to be okay. You will get through this. You can learn to let go and be at peace with unthinkable circumstances. You can! Joy will return, even if your child never does. You can find new purpose, new dreams and goals, and enjoy life again.
Remember, you’re in a long-distance run. You may have no clue what mile you’re on. At times you think you catch a glimpse of the finish line just around the next corner, but it’s elusive. You can’t quite get there.
If you’re running alone, I have a suggestion. Don’t.
You need community to finish the race. If I can keep running, then you can, too, even if it’s uphill all the way.
We can do it—together.
Let us run with perseverance the race marked out for us, fixing our eyes on Jesus. (Hebrews 12:1)
These are a few resources that helped me:
Support groups; al-anon.alateen.org, nar-anon.org, celebraterecovery.com
The National Alliance on Mental Illness; nami.org – helpful website, free classes and support
Prayer for Prodigals; prayerforprodigals.com; a ministry of Cru (formerly Campus Crusade for Christ); a confidential prayer community full of resources
Check out our website for our favorite books, websites and more: hopeforhurtingparents.com
One of my favorite books is Parents with Broken Hearts: Helping Parents of Prodigals Cope, Bill Coleman. Rev. ed. Winona lake, IN: BMH Books, 2007.
Need more help? Visit Dena’s website, Hope for Hurting Parents, for weekly advice, tips, and encouragement.