20 Surprises by Mary DeMuth

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You never know what your kids might find interest in doing. Here are 20 surprising things they might try – and be great at!

  1. Painting. Try a local painting studio. Many have popped up in recent years.
  2. Fencing. Epee, anyone? 
  3. Cooking. Many school districts offer chef classes now.
  4. Triathlons.
  5. Musical instruments. Most school districts offer free instruction via band programs.
  6. Writing. Here’s a link to the National Novel Writers Month for youth.
  7. Architecture. Here’s a software program just for kids.
  8. Anatomy. Here’s a journey into the human body.
  9. Geography. Have kids aim for the National Geography Bee
  10. Lacrosse is a sport that’s booming in recent years.
  11. Fashion design. Try out this free site
  12. Gardening. Here’s a listing of resources
  13. Knitting. Here’s a how-to.
  14. Video production. Your child can make money at this hobby!
  15. Ballroom dancing. There are always community classes for this.
  16. Coaching. Have your child volunteer under a good coach.
  17. Frisbee golf. An affordable and fun sport.
  18. Photography. Local community colleges offer classes, and with today’s digital SLRs, learning is a snap.
  19. Graphic design. Kids might show affinity toward making t-shirts, designing web banners, creating logos.
  20. Social justice. Contact your church for local ministries that feed the homeless.

Do your kids have any unique hobbies?

Mary DeMuth is a storyteller, author, mother, wife, and sometimes tri-athlete. 

Getting Financially Fit by William Summey

My wife and I launched into the new year with a renewed effort to get organized and also updated technologically with our budget. We started searching for new apps and soon landed on the Crown Financial site. I had purchased their Money Map software several years ago and was pleased to see that they had a new online Mvelopes tool for online envelope budgeting. We began their free trial and knew this was for us. We entered in our account information, income, set up a budget, and funded envelopes according to that budget. We have access through the Mvelopes app to record every purchase wherever we are to keep track of our monthly spending. We love it!

It is easy to get started but comes with many tools to help. There are great videos about managing your money and a helpful debt center. There is even opportunity to sign up for personal coaching for advice and your personal questions. We wholeheartedly recommend Mvelopes to everyone!

Check out Crown’s site for their great financial information and resources from a Christian perspective and Mvelopes in particular for their great money management app.

What are some other apps you have found helpful to manage your money?

10 Tips for Bullying Prevention in Schools

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Bullying is an issue that schools around the country are paying attention to. It’s one that is leaving many seats in the classrooms empty each day. In fact, it’s estimated that, around the country, roughly 160,000 students stay home each day because they fear bullying. Fortunately, there are plenty of things that schools can do in order to help successfully prevent and address the issue on their campus.

 

  • Focus on prevention. When you begin working on bullying as a school-wide issue, place the emphasis more on preventing it so that it is not as big of a problem to begin with.
  • Establish a committee. Create a task force at the school to focus on bullying. That committee should include members from staff, teachers, parents, and students. Together, they can work together and have their input considered.
  • Create a plan. Within the committee, work together to create a bully-prevention plan for the school. Include what the consequences will be if people are found to be bullying others.
  • Start early. It is never too early to start working with children about treating others with kindness, respect, and acceptance. Start at the earliest grade that the school has, leaving no children out of the plan.
  • Keep it going. As children work their way through the school, advancing to the next grade, reinforce the bully-prevention message. They need to hear the message every year, as opposed to it being given to them only once.
  • Think multiple methods. Children learn in different manners. Some learn by listening, others learn by hands-on projects, and still others learn by watching. Try to incorporate multiple ways to get the bully-prevention message across to students. Include things like books, plays, games, movies, and more.
  • Encourage peer advocacy. When students go from being bystanders to being “upstanders,” attempts to address bullying will be more successful. Students should be taught to stand up for other students.
  • Teach what to do. Even though the focus should mainly be on bullying prevention, students still need to know what to do if it happens to them. Teach them acceptable ways to handle bullying if they do encounter it.
  • Work with parents. Parents want a bully-free school as much as teachers, staff, and students do. Nobody wants their child to come home in tears after a day of being bullied. Get the parents involved in the bully prevention effort in order to make it more successful.
  • Evaluate and adjust. Once or twice per year, give the students an anonymous survey to fill out, where they can answer questions about bullying on the school campus. This will provide a look at how the students feel about the school atmosphere, and will give staff the chance to see if the bully-free plans need to be re-evaluated.

“Schools want those children in their seats every day, rather than avoiding school out of fear,” explains Karen Goldberg, a licensed clinical social worker who specializes in working with parents and families. “When schools make bullying a priority and take real steps to help prevent and address bullying, everyone is better off. It takes some dedication and focus, but a successful program can be created and implemented.”

See also: Linda Mintle’s response to parents of children who are being bullied.

Are You Ratings-Ready? Comic Book Edition by Mike Nappa

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Ever wonder how comic books are rated for content—or if they’re even rated at all? Wonder no more! Here’s what you need to know.

 

Are Comic Books Rated?

Well, yes and no.

With the demise of the Comics Code Authority Seal of Approval (1954-2011) there is no longer any semi-independent body issuing ratings or approvals for comics. However, most individual comics companies offer parents some sort of rating system to help them find books appropriate for their kids. The ratings are generally featured on the cover, next to the UPC code.

 

How Does Marvel Comics Rate Their Books?

According to Marvel’s editor in chief, Axel Alonso, “Not all comics are intended for kids–which is why we label our comics for their intended audience. That said, most of our content is PG-rated material aimed at a multiplex audience.”

Here are the specific ratings you’ll find on a Marvel comic:

  • All Ages. These comics area rated by default, meaning they don’t have any rating at all on the cover. That signals the content has been judged appropriate for children, teens, and adults alike.
  • A Appropriate for age 9 and up. These are typically the flagship comics from Marvel, such as Fantastic Four or Amazing Spider-Man. Books with this rating will be typically absent of profanity or adult content, but will be full of action and might include words that many younger children won’t understand (i.e. “invulnerable”).
  • T+ Suggested for Teens and Up. Comics with this rating are comparable to a PG-13 movie rating. According to Bill Rosemann of Marvel Comics, “In these titles you can generally find the violence and language turned up a notch. Recommended for our teen and adult readers.” These are books like Punisher, Elektra, and Marvel Knights.
  • Parental Advisory. Comics with this rating are intended for adults only, and could contain profanity, partial nudity, and graphic violence. Consider this the “R” rating you’d see on a comparable movie.
  • Max: Explicit Content. Basically the NC-17 of comics.

 

How Are DC Comics Rated?

  • E – Everyone. Cartoon violence and comic mischief at best. Typically suitable for children (or for the young at heart!).
  • T – Teen. This is DC Comics’ version of a PG-13 rating, and will likely include action-style violence and mild profanity.
  • T+ – Teen Plus. A unique rating that falls somewhere in between “T” and “Mature.” Typically targeting readers ages 16 and up, these books will likely contain some profanity and suggestive themes, but no nudity.
  • Mature. Intended for readers 18 and older. May contain nudity, intense violence, extensive profanity, and sexual themes.

 

Where Can I Find More?

Diamond Comic Distributors website, Kidscomics.com, is a resource that offers a wealth of recommendations for parents.

Still, the best comic book rating system for your family is you, the parent. Don’t be afraid to take time to read the books your kids are interested in and then to decide whether or not they are appropriate for your household.

 

Mike Nappa is an author of more than 50 books. He is also the founder of Nappaland Literary Agency and a former book acquisitions editor. He is featured each month in ParentLife magazine and in Trends and Truth Online on the ParentLife blog.

5 Ways to Show Love to Your Kids Every Day by Jessie Weaver

With Valentine’s Day behind us, sometimes we can forget about showing love to our kids on a daily basis in tangible ways. Here are some easy ways to do that!

 

Foster Creativity

“Genuinely embrace their creativity – even if it doesn’t fit your definition of creativity. If it is drumming, give them the opportunity to play. If it is art or poetry, give them the tools they need to exercise that. Expressing their creativity is an expression of who they are. If we deny them that, we deny them the opportunity to grow into their own person.”12 Most

Go on “Dates” with Your Kids

10 ideas from Bella Thorne

“Going out for frozen yogurt at those popular FroYo bars is fun. Adding your toppings is so much fun. This is a perfect date night activity with your daughter. Going out for ice cream would be fun too. For some reason, you feel less guilty about eating frozen yogurt.”Long Wait for Isabella

“If there’s a splash park near your home, take her there often. She will be drawn to the water like a duck to a puddle.”From Dates to Diapers

Eat Dessert for Breakfast. Just Because You Can.

Send Fun/Funny/Seasonal Foods in Their Lunches.

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Celebrate a Weird Holiday.

March 10 is “Middle Name Pride” Day. February 27 is “Polar Bear Day”! (Ideas for polar bear books and activities.)

“What could be better than Fairy Tale Day? Once upon a time there was Fairy Tale Day and we all lived happily ever after, the end. Great day to read some famous Fairy Tales to your kids.” – Squidoo, Weird February Holidays

What do you do to show your kids love every day?

Spice It Up! by Beth Bence Reinke

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When your child helps you cook, she probably loves to measure and pour ingredients, especially from all the fun little bottles in your spice rack. Not only do spices make foods taste scrumptious, they’re loaded with health-promoting antioxidants. Studies show spices have amazing health benefits. For instance, cinnamon may help control blood sugar. Ginger soothes tummy troubles. Turmeric, found alone or in curry powder, works against cancer and inflammation.

Scientific evidence shows spices can work together to fight carcinogens, so blending them together is even better.  Encourage your young chef to mix and match spices with different kinds of foods to create new flavor combinations. Go ahead, spice it up!

Want a recipe to make with your child? They can definitely help measure spices and mix components in this delicious Indian condiment, Pineapple Raita. (Serve with Indian Pork Kebabs, which have a lovely spice rub, too!)

How do you let your child help in the kitchen?

Beth Bence Reinke holds a Bachelor’s in biology & secondary education, a Master’s in nutrition, and is a registered dietitian. She writes articles about food, health and nutrition for magazines and websites such as ParentLife, Smart and CBN.com and is the wellness columnist for Living Light News, a Canadian newspaper. Overall, Beth has written 220+ articles and numerous devotionals for publication.

Special Needs and Resolutions by Ellen Stumbo

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With the New Year here, it is time for me to think about resolutions. The thing is, having children with special needs has changed the way I look at these hopeful declarations of a better me. So I turn to my daughters and see in them examples of who I want to be.

1. I want to love people despite of their appearance.

I tend to judge and keep my distance from people based on their exterior. My daughter with Down syndrome has the ability to look past appearances and accept people fully.

2. I want to give it all.

Sometimes, I don’t try very hard; I just do enough “to get by.” My daughter with cerebral palsy gives it her all, she is fully in, trying hard, never giving up. Everything she does, she does it to the best of her ability.

3. I want to experience joy in the little things.

My daughter with Down syndrome seems to find joy easy. She is not just happy; she is filled with joy (when she is not filled with crabbiness). The way her face lights up with a smile, and the deep laugh that comes from her soul when she is surprised with a bowl of ice cream reminds me I need more joy in my life.

4. I want to celebrate with others.

In our home, we celebrate every little accomplishment our girls achieve. Celebration is a normal part of our life; we clap, jump, and cheer often. I want to take that beyond my home, I want to encourage others and celebrate with them. We all need more celebration in our life.

5. I want to make a difference.

The world might see my children as less than perfect, but I know that God has a plan and a purpose for their lives. My children have inspired not only me, but many others around them. Hopefully some day, I will be able to do for others what they have done for me.

Ellen Stumbo is a writer and speaker. She is the mother of three daughters: Ellie; Nichole, who has Down syndrome; and Nina, who was adopted and also has special needs. She is wife to Andy, a pastor.

Keep It Going: Service After Christmas by Tobin Perry

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Service shouldn’t just be one month of your family’s year. Make it a lifestyle. Here are few tips to help you “keep your serve on” all year long.

  • Put it on your calendar. Whether it’s an established ministry you’ll be helping or a something informal you’ll do as a family, put it on your calendar—weekly, monthly, or whatever you can do.
  • Tap into your family’s interests. Your family will keep doing what they enjoy doing. Make what you’re doing a family decision.
  • Get involved in ongoing missions education. Southern Baptist missions education resources are designed to help your family become missions-minded believers. Servanthood is a big part of that. Visit www.namb.net/missioned or www.wmu.com for more information.
  • Debrief each service experience. Being intentional about discussing what your family did will help keep everyone on the same page. Sometimes children and adults see the same project very differently.

Tobin Perry serves as the online editor for On Mission magazine at the North American Mission Board in Alpharetta, Ga.

The Doggie in the Window by Kristen White

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Have your kids been begging for a pet? Christmas is an exciting time to bless our children, and you may be thinking about finally giving in to their request. Here are some things to consider before adopting a new pet:

  • Timing. If you want to travel during the holidays—or if you travel frequently—think about the expense and complication of boarding a pet. Do you have a reliable pet care center in town? Are your children old and responsible enough to help with day-to-day pet-care chores? Are you considering another baby, a move, or a decision that would affect the long-term care of your pet? It is better not to get a pet and give him up later than to have one for just a little while.
  • Type. If your kids long for a pet, and a dog or cat is out of the question due to allergies, lifestyle, or other reasons, consider some kind of small, inexpensive friend, such as a hamster, guinea pig, or fish. If a dog or cat is on your horizon, consider not only the cost of the pet, but also the cost of shots, food, tick and flea medication, hygiene items, and other incidentals. Be aware that specialty pets, such as ferrets, rabbits, and de-scented skunks, can require a higher level of care and expense than cats and dogs. Read, ask questions, and be informed before you choose your pet.
  • Training. If you’ve narrowed down a special breed of dog or cat, ask for references of breeders, shelters, trainers, and vets.

Pets are one of the greatest sources of companionship and joy in life, but it is important to be informed before making a decision.

 

Kristen White enjoys writing, being in the kitchen, and teaching sixth graders at First Baptist Church Shelbyville, Kentucky.

Trends & Truth Online with Mika Nappa: Talking The Hobbit with Dr. Timothy Paul Jones

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Dr. Timothy Paul Jones is a distinguished theologian, a professor at The Southern Baptist Seminary, and editor of the Journal of Discipleship and Family Ministry. Oh, he’s also a pop culture savant and expert on J.R.R. Tolkien. We recently got him talking about The Hobbit movie―care to listen in?

T&TO: What should every parent know about The Hobbit?

Jones: The Hobbit will span three films: An Unexpected Journey (2012), The Desolation of Smaug (2013), and There and Back Again (2014). The films are based on a book from J.R.R. Tolkien. Tolkien wrote the book for children, although the book’s readership has long since transcended any age limitation.

Even though The Hobbit will hit theaters a decade after The Lord of the Rings films, this reversed order wasn’t the case when it comes to the books. The first version of The Hobbit book was published in 1937, several years prior to the first installment of The Lord of the Rings trilogy.

If The Hobbit films follow Tolkien’s text, there will be a lot of wizardry and a bit of burglary, a couple of quite violent conflicts, and plenty of puffing on pipe-weed. The Hobbit films are likely to provide foundations for fruitful family discussions about magic and morals, wealth and war, and more.

 

T&TO: The Hobbit is overwhelmingly favored by Christian groups, but some parents warn that kind of blanket endorsement is potentially harmful. Your thoughts?

Jones: Part of this favor in the Christian community stems from the fact that J.R.R. Tolkien’s writings originated within a Christian worldview. In fact, Tolkien took the very term “Middle-earth” from an Old English poem about Christ’s ascension! Tolkien was a devout Roman Catholic, and God used Tolkien to bring C.S. Lewis to faith in Jesus Christ.

When asked about the religious perspective of The Lord of the Rings, Tolkien described the trilogy as “a fundamentally religious and Catholic work, unconsciously so at first, but consciously in the revision. That is why I have not put in, or have cut out, practically all references to anything like ‘religion,’ to cults or practices, in the Imaginary world. For the religious element is absorbed into the story and the symbolism.”

I would suggest that this is no less true of The Hobbit. Although the work is certainly no allegory—Tolkien despised allegories—the characters are deeply symbolic, representing humanity’s deep sense of exile as well as our struggle not to center our lives on the pursuit of earthly wealth or power.

Despite the origins of The Hobbit in a Christian worldview, I would agree that a blanket endorsement is undeserved—and I’d say the same about any other work of popular art and culture. Here’s why: Such endorsements can unintentionally provide parents with a false comfort, the idea that they can place this book or movie or digital download in front of their children without having to engage in critique or conversation about it.

Visit Dr. Jones online at: www.TimothyPaulJones.com.

Will you and/or your kids go see The Hobbit movie? It releases December 14th, this Friday.