How many times a day do you say, “I” “me”, or “my”? Try this game to start today’s session: Divide the small group into groups of 3 or 4. Ask each person with the smaller group to share a story about their life. Stories are limited to 2 or 3 minutes. But there’s a catch! No personal pronouns can be used. The story is to be about their life but told from someone else’s perspective. If a personal pronoun is used, the story must end and it’s the next person’s turn to share.
Bring the group back together. Discuss how difficult it is to talk about one’s life without focusing on oneself. I have found when I focus beyond myself, my world expands, and my problems get smaller. I see them in a new perspective. Did telling your story without the personal pronouns make you feel like an outsider looking at your life from a new perspective?
Continue with to The Point on page 84 of the personal study guide. Consider these substitutions:
- Question #2: It is easy to see when someone else is being selfish. How can we respond when someone else is acting out of selfish motives?
- Question #3: Red flags are those little things that wiggle into your intuition to warn of potential problems. Discuss what red signs cause you concern and how to respond.
- Question #4: David was willing to look at the conflict with Saul with faith that God had a plan. Saul wanted to be in control of the plan. Why do we attempt to take control of life’s conflicts away from God and fix it ourselves? Discuss what happened when Saul took charge. How does that compare to when we decide we can fix life’s conflicts on our own?
- Question #5: David was a man after God’s own heart. He humbled reacted to the conflict with Saul, even apologizing for a little slip of “in your face” when he cut off a hunk of Saul’s robe. David was a humble young man. Being around a humble, Godly person can be intimidating because we compare our level of humility to theirs. How does David’s humility lead you to respond emotionally? How do you see David’s humility when compared to Jesus’ humility in sacrificing himself for us?
Continue through Live it Out on page 90 of the personal study guide. End today’s session by praying for a desire to be humble at all times, especially when we face conflict. Ask for wisdom in understanding how to be humble in the midst of conflict.
We want to hear from you! How are you introducing the topic of focusing on others rather than “ME” in conflict with the women in your class or small group?
The options for women for the When Relationships Collide unit were written by Deb Douglas, Minister to Women and Hope of First Baptist Bossier City, LA. Deb is a wife, mother, grandmother (call her Pearl!), writer, seamstress, and foodie!.Follow her on Twitter: @DrDebDouglas and her blog: pinkkudzu.wordpress.com.