by Steve Rogers
A friend once told me he could classify every person he met into one of two categories — those with a yes face and those with a no face. Intrigued with his assertion, I immediately set out to put it to the test. For the next month, every time I walked through a mall or an airport, I would look at each person who walked by and ask myself: Does this person have a yes face or a no face?
The results were informative. I was struck by two things: My friend was right. It is hard to find someone who is not wearing either a yes face or a no face. And a lot more people are walking around in the world wearing no faces.
So what’s my point? Simply this: You and I can subtly change the immediate world around us by consciously putting on a yes face. Maybe you naturally have a yes face. However, if you’re like most people, you need to work at it, just as an athlete puts on a game face.
Put on your yes face before you leave your bedroom. Remember, when it comes to your face, gravity is not your friend. It tends to pull your facial muscles down into a frown. I read somewhere that it takes 43 muscles to frown, but only 17 to smile. If you don’t like to exercise, this is good news!
Do you know what else is great about a smile? It’s one of the few things you can give to someone else but still keep for yourself. So aspire to be like the orphans in the musical, Annie, who sang, “You’re never fully dressed without a smile” and not like W. C. Fields, who said, “Start every day off with a smile and get it over with.”
A yes face is more than pasting on a smile. A positive countenance is simply the outward expression of the inward qualities the Bible calls the fruit of the Spirit — love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, gentleness, and self-control. My father, Adrian Rogers, used to say, “What’s down in the well comes up in the bucket.” He’d also say, “When someone is jostled, then you see what they’re full of. If they’re full of Jesus, then that is what will overflow. If they are full of negativity, then that will overflow, as well.”
Determine to start your day by first filling up on Jesus. Then greet everyone you meet throughout your day with your yes face on. And when you see someone without a smile, give them one of yours.
Steve Rogers is president and co-founder of the Adrian Rogers Pastor Training Institute in North Palm Beach, Fla. A well-known author, songwriter, and speaker, he co-wrote three books with his father. He and his wife, Cindi, have a daughter and a 3-year-old grandson.
This article originally appeared in the April, 2013 issue of Mature Living. Subscribe