To supplement the “Live It Out” activities, draw a scale from 1 to 10 on the board. Explain that “1” represents “Cold” and 10 represents “Overheated.” Encourage each set of parents to respond to the following question using the scale: How would you rate the intensity of the conflicts that pop up in your family? Record responses on the scale.
Affirm that sometimes our family conflicts can be our most heated conflicts. Suggest that this may be true because we’re less likely to humble ourselves at home. Say: We don’t really want to admit we’re wrong because we think it gives a family member the upper hand. We also think we can “punish” the offending family member by nursing the anger and the conflict.
Emphasize that we can only defuse conflicts at home when we follow the same biblical principles for other areas of our lives: we have to be humble. To illustrate this truth, show the video clip “Why Are You Doing This?” from Fireproof.
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- Briefly share that Caleb and Katherine are on the verge of divorce, but God has changed Caleb’s heart. Discuss how he showed humility as he tried to heal the wounds in his marriage.
- Remind parents that they set the culture for their homes. Encourage them to embrace humility and to combat conflicts with one another and with their children using this biblical principle.
The options for parents for the Pressure Points unit were written by Bob Bunn. Bob helps develop stewardship curriculum and resources for churches for Dave Ramsey’s Financial Peace University. He is the author of Indelible Parenting, a four week study for parents based on Deuteronomy 6. He and his wife, Mary, live in Nashville with their three teenagers.